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And Now, For Your Enjoyment … Swimming Dogs!

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Be Happier By Celebrating Small Victories

victorycartoonThere is no denying that accomplishing a major long-term goal feels fantastic. But, unless you’re superhuman, that kind of thing doesn’t usually happen on a daily basis. What happens more frequently are small successes which, if we stop to acknowledge them, can actually be great sources of happiness.

However, sometimes recognizing little, daily victories can be harder than it seems. In some cases, this is because we’re simply not in the habit of noticing them.  Other times, it’s because we deliberately downplay them, which happens for a couple of reasons:

1.  Having a big goal, such as getting a promotion or losing a significant amount of weight, can lead to a fear of getting excited too soon, and being let down later. We think that if we allow ourselves to do a little victory dance when our boss gives us a compliment or the number on the scale goes down, we set ourselves up for disappointment. We worry that the compliment was only a one-time thing, and remind ourselves that our weight loss could easily plateau the next day.

The best thing to say to these concerns is, “So what?!” If our success doesn’t last, we will still be disappointed, whether or not we let ourselves be happy about it first. So we might as well get some joy in the meantime. A more effective safeguard against disappointment might be to just make sure we don’t kid ourselves ( i.e., “The boss complimented me … I bet I will be vice president of this company by lunch!”). Not only that, it is always possible our success will continue and we actually won’t be disappointed. So, why not get even more mileage out of a big achievement by celebrating along the way?

2. Another thing that can stand in the way of enjoying small victories is the feeling that we aren’t pushing ourselves hard enough if we celebrate anything short of complete success.  Those little milestones might seem so far below our ultimate goal that we think we don’t deserve congratulations. We also might fear losing motivation by building a small accomplishment up too much (e.g., “Hmm, I guess 5 pounds is a lot of weight. Now I can EAT ALL THE COOKIES!!!!”).

Those kinds of thoughts are actually fairly unproductive. Even if an accomplishment is way smaller than whatever we ultimately plan to achieve, giving ourselves an internal high-five can be the encouragement we need to keep working hard. If we never stop to admire our progress, it’s much easier to burn out. Building up an accomplishment is good for our confidence, and it is in our power to prevent any potentially negative effects (e.g., “Five pounds is a lot of weight, good job self! I guess turning down those cookies is worth it!”).

Once we commit to letting ourselves enjoy small victories, we just have to figure out where to find them. A lot of the time, these victories do come in the form of progress toward a long-term goal. They might also come from achieving small goals, like finishing up some repairs around the house or making a successful attempt at a new recipe. Small victories can even come from unexpected successes that aren’t related to any predetermined goal. Maybe you managed to bring all the groceries inside in one trip, or maybe you caught a dish that fell off the table before it hit the ground.

Whatever form they take, little victories happen all the time. Go ahead and cheer for yourself the next time you climb a flight of stairs without keeling over. No accomplishment is too small to smile about!


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Wonderful Things About Winter

According to Punxsutawney Phil, the world’s most accurate (and furry) weatherman, winter will be sticking around for a few more weeks. Sure, cold weather can be inconvenient at times, but there are still plenty of reasons to celebrate the season. Here are some of the best things about winter:

Photo by Debbie Mann

Photo by Debbie Mann

The foods/drinks. Winter is that amazing time of year when baked goods attempt to take over the world, and the best part is, no one tries to stop them. It’s also the perfect time for warm, hearty soups. And of course we can’t forget about those overflowing cups of hot chocolate,  topped with copious amounts of whipped cream and marshmallows. Or all the decadent holiday meals. Or the seasonal flavors of ice cream…

Playing in the rain/snow.  Splashing in puddles, building snowmen, having snowball fights, and going sledding are basically the whole point of winter. And I don’t care what anyone says, these are things you never outgrow.

Bundling up. It doesn’t matter whether you look forward to trying out the latest winter fashions or, like me, view winter as that awesome season where sweat pants, wool socks, and ugly sweaters are perfectly acceptable attire; there is something cozy about having the cold on your face while your body is all warm under every article of clothing you own.

The sights/smells/sounds.Winter treats the senses with snow-covered landscapes, rainbows, the welcoming aromas of baking and warm fires, the smells of fresh rain and snow, the pitter patter of raindrops on the roof, the silence after a snowy night, and so much more.

Winter sports. This is the season for skiing, snowboarding, ice skating, bobsledding, hockey, and just about every other athletic activity that requires precipitation. Whether you play these sports yourself, watch them, or enjoy making fun of them (curling, that means you), winter is the only time of year you get the opportunity.

Being cozy inside. There really is something great about the feeling of coming in from the cold, snuggling up under a blanket, and settling down with your favorite book or movie. Every type of indoor hobby, from knitting to building model airplanes, becomes instantly more fun when it’s chilly outside.

So, that being said, a few more weeks of winter could actually be kind of nice. I guess I don’t have a groundhog to strangle after all.

Did I forget any of your favorite things about winter? Please feel free to share them in a comment!


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Be Happier By Keeping In Touch With The Past

dear past cartoonEveryone has heard the conventional wisdom that cautions against “living in the past,” and stresses the importance of making the most of present moments. But sometimes, the key to being happy now can be found by looking back.

Of course, there is a big difference between “looking back” and “running back at full speed, sitting down, and stubbornly refusing to ever move forward again.” Thinking about the past is dangerous in that second scenario because it is likely to lead to one, or both, of the following problems:

1. Fixation on regrets. It is easy to destroy the opportunity for present happiness by replaying the disappointments of the past over and over in our minds. Obsessing over things we wish had gone differently tends to result in even more regrets as our obsession causes us to continually miss chances to build a better life.

2. Mourning the way things used to be. When the present is less than ideal, it is tempting to wallow in sadness because we miss the happy moments of the past. But this comparison between “then” and “now” can trap us into believing that nothing could ever measure up to the good old days and cause us to overlook new joys.

However, by taking the healthier approach of merely glancing backwards, we can actually use the past to help maximize present opportunities for happiness. This way, the two problems above can be reframed as more productive courses of action:

1. Learning from mistakesIt is useful to remember things that have previously caused unhappiness, so we can make a note of what to do differently in the future. Memories of past conflicts, poor decisions, and moments of grief can serve as incentive to try new approaches that might lead to better results. Looking back gives us the opportunity to evaluate potential flaws in our current approach to life, and to correct those flaws before they are added to our lists of past mistakes.

2. Finding sources of positivity. Sometimes the present seems to come up a bit short on reasons to be happy.  Past joys can provide reassurance that the world isn’t all bad, and the warm fuzzy feelings inspired by fond memories can give us strength to face the tough stuff. Not only that, awareness of things that  made us happy before can guide us in the right direction as we consider what might make us happiest now.

Keeping in touch with the past allows us to preserve the best parts of our life and avoid recreating the worst parts. We just have to be careful not to let a casual, “keeping in touch,” relationship with the past escalate into an overly clingy relationship filled with resentment or unhealthy dependency.